In the Mood for LOVE
Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash My first kiss was with a girl. I was 19 and studying at a private college in Jakarta. Coming from a small village, I naively thought that a relationship only happened between men and women. But after moving to the capital city, I learned that a relationship could happen between any genders and in the case of my classmate, Samantha, it was both with men and women! A bisexual, Samantha was very open with her sexuality. Although I felt annoyed that she couldn’t make up her mind and choose between men or women, judged her for being opportunistic, greedy, and wanting to have it all, I found her very interesting and intriguing. This encounter made me reflect on my own sexuality. I went out with boys but never really had a boyfriend and only had two crushes – a boy with cute freckles in middle school and the smartest boy in high school. It seemed to me that I was overly selective. And although I found women to be beautiful creatures and definitel...